Day 103: The Words You Speak Are Shaping Your Life

Your words are so much more powerful than most people believe they are.


How often do you hear someone say something derogatory about themselves and then follow it with, “I’m just kidding”?


But those words, and the thoughts they bring to the surface, matter.


Your mind takes everything at face value.


It can’t tell the difference between what you mean and what you don’t.


All it can go on is the thoughts you have most often.


It can be something you say out loud or something in your inner dialogue.

There is no such thing as a neutral thought.

Every thought is weighted in one direction or the other by the thought itself and the thoughts that go along with it.

We’ve talked a lot about the emotional scale and the vibrational frequency it connects you to.

Your thoughts and words move your emotional frequency up or down.

That is the vibrational energy of what you are creating in your life.

So those thoughts you’re having, and the things you say without giving them a second thought, all add up.

They shape what you’re creating in your life.

You are co-creating your future right now with every thought you have and every word you say.

You can say you want a pink elephant and it won’t arrive, because you don’t believe it.

There’s no energy behind it.

But the things you do believe…

The things you say with emotion…

The things you focus on…

They are coming.

The question is:

What aspect of what you want are you focusing on?

Are you focusing more on what you’re looking forward to, what you’re afraid of, or the negative feelings around not having it?

Because what shows up is the aspect you are putting the most emotion and repetition of thought into.

You may really want something.

But if your energy is focused on someone else having it and not deserving it as much as you do, then jealousy and resentment are what you will get more of.

If you say you want a bigger house, but you’re worried about repairs you may not be able to afford, you are giving energy to that version of the outcome.

The house you want may or may not come, but your focus on having expensive repairs probably will.

It’s all on the weight of your thoughts.
Where are they pointing?


Everything is taken literally.


It’s the energetic vibration that brings what you are most focused on.

My ex used to joke about me looking like I was bald when I wore a hat because my hair was platinum blonde.

Then he started calling me chemo girl.

He didn’t mean anything by it.

It was just a joke.

But I didn’t like it.

And as soon as I received a cancer diagnosis, I told him to never say that again.

And about that diagnosis…

I already knew the power of my words, so I never took ownership of it.

I said I received a diagnosis, not I have cancer.

I’ve never said I’m a cancer survivor.

Who I am is not tied to a disease.

I don’t take ownership of that.

It’s an important distinction.

The same thing with domestic abuse.

I never said I was a victim of domestic abuse.

I talk about being in an abusive relationship.

Only facts.

No story that sticks to you and becomes something you carry with you for the rest of your life.

On the positive side, “I am” statements are powerful.

They define the identity you claim.

You can choose these.

You can use them to empower yourself and co-create a different future.

If you hear yourself starting to claim something you don’t want in an “I am” statement, stop.

Ask yourself:

“What do I want to be claiming instead?”

I believe one of the reasons I moved through the cancer diagnosis as quickly as I did was because of my mindset.


The things I said to myself.

The beliefs I held.

Chinese philosopher Lao Tzu said:

“Watch your thoughts, they become words.
Watch your words, they become actions.
Watch your actions, they become habits.
Watch your habits, they become character.
Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.”

Today’s Gentle Practice

Take a quiet moment today.

Notice your words.

Especially the ones you say without thinking.

Pay attention to your inner dialogue.

If you hear yourself say something about who you are that doesn’t feel aligned, pause.

Gently ask yourself:

“Is this something I want to continue to create?”

Then choose a new statement.

One that feels more aligned with what you want.

Say it quietly to yourself and notice how it feels.

If this resonates, I’d love to hear what you’ve noticed about the way you speak to yourself.


With you,

Lynn