Day 136: The Quiet Ways We Become Someone New

Filling up trash bags and boxing more stuff to give away.



I don’t know what it is that makes it feel like Christmas when I do a quarterly purge of closets and cabinets.



At the same time, there’s something about imagining new people enjoying the things I no longer use that opens my heart. 



It also makes me wonder why there is always so much to give away.

I’ve been doing this since the mid-90’s. You’d think I wouldn’t have anything left.



What is the catalyst that makes us start to give more of ourselves and be more generous with others?



We share our time, we share our love, our stuff, our knowledge, because it feels so good to do it.



And then I read a thought from Wayne Dyer this morning that just clicked something into place for me.



Now I don’t think it’s a coincidence that I started giving away my material possessions and volunteering with charities at the same time I started meditating daily.



And there’s no way I would have connected these dots if I hadn’t read about it this morning.

He said:


Allow yourself to enjoy silence and meditation.

Even if you don’t have a structured meditation practice, give yourself time to simply savor the silence.

Turn off the noisemakers at home and in your auto.

Create time to be in nature away from human-made sounds.

Learn to treat your voyages inward as sacred space, spending moments repeatedly letting go by physically and mentally relaxing. 



Let go of worrying, planning, thinking, recalling, wondering, hoping, desiring, or remembering.

Consciously let go of each physical sensation you notice.

Do this one moment at a time.

Enter a state where you can let your possessions, your family, your home, your work, and your body cease to exist.

Experience the inner bliss of nothingness.

When you emerge from your silence, begin the process of detachment by literally giving away something that you don’t use at least once every day.

In nothingness, you will find greater intimacy with your Source of being.



All I could say is, “Wow”.

I sat with that for a minute and then reread it.



It’s not my habit to give away things every day, but I do give of myself every day.



I’d always rather pass things along than sell them at a garage sale.



My point of view is to see it as a lightening of my home is a reflection of a lightening of my spirit.



I was such a materialistic person when I was younger.



Appearances were everything and I could have been a professional shopper, to the point I was a free wardrobe consultation for many of my friends.



I never asked myself where the switch came from. I always thought it had something to do with moving to this little fishing village where there was no shopping and the habit was broken.



Now that I read this, it reminds me how often, there are major and minor shifts in who we are becoming that we pay little or no attention to when they occur or after.



Things change and we don’t notice.



If someone would have asked me, I would have shrugged my shoulders and said I started doing it a long time ago and I’m not sure what started it.



That’s how we come to think that we are the same person we’ve always been.



That’s why when our world cracks open, we try to return to a version of ourselves that never actually existed as permanently as we imagined.

We mistakenly think we had been a static version of ourselves for years, decades even. And that’s just not true.



We are constantly becoming, and we just don’t see it. There’s no reason for us to pay attention.



Not until something cracks us open an all our senses are heightened. Everything becomes open to question and inspection.



Then change becomes scary because we are aware, we’re watching.



But the thing is, we’ve always been changing, becoming someone new, because expansion and unfolding is what we are designed to do.



Today, I’ll never look at myself quite the same way, now that I’ve uncovered this insight into myself.



Let me know if this awakens something in you.



Today’s Gentle Practice

As you move through your day today, notice if there’s anything you’ve quietly outgrown that you’re still holding onto.

Maybe it’s a possession.

Maybe it’s a belief, a habit, a role, or even an old version of yourself.

Not from judgment.

Just awareness.

And gently ask yourself:

“What would feel lighter if I released it?”

Notice what happens in your body when you imagine letting go instead of holding on.

Sometimes the things we release externally are reflections of the shifts already happening within us.


With you,

Lynn