Day 143: The Difference Between Clarity and Control

It’s almost ready. 



I’ve pictured it in my mind for so long.



Having a place on a quiet beach.

My own personal retreat.



A vague vision because it wasn’t important for me to micro-manage my co-creation.



When I started visualizing it, I didn’t know where it would be, what kind of RV I would have or what its new home would look like.



I did have criteria.



I’ve been making specific lists of what I look for in a living space the way other people make a list for a potential love interest for decades.



That has always served me well.



So, given my list, I felt sure I would love where I ended up. And I do.



The pergola and palapa roof are so close to being finished I can already picture myself there.



Once I committed, in less than 30 days, it’s done, and I can move the motorhome to its permanent spot.



When there are times I feel like things aren’t happening in a way I’d would like, there are a couple of things I check my alignment on.



One thing is that if your nervous system doesn't feel safe, your desires will fight with each other. 



Part of you may consciously want something, while another part of you still doesn’t feel safe receiving it.



And instead of things turning out the way you’d like nothing happens at all or your conflicting thoughts have brought the opposite of what you want to you.



I remember Wayne Dyer saying, “The more you try to force something for your own benefit, the less you’ll enjoy what you’re seeking so desperately.”



And that’s if you get it.



Why?



I’ve learned from experience that when I force something to happen that was difficult, when I get it, I often realize it wasn’t meant for me.

That’s why it was difficult.



The Universe was trying to protect me from myself and I would have it. I wanted what I wanted.



That’s one of the biggest things I’ve learned through the years. There’s a difference between clarity and control.



One feels peaceful even when there are temporary obstacles. The other feels like constant strain, fear, urgency, and resistance.

This affirmation from Louise Hay is a good one for this conversation:


I ask for what I want. I know that whatever I need will always be there for me.

Today’s Gentle Practice

Notice today if there is something you’ve been trying very hard to force into place.


A relationship, decision, timeline, an outcome.

Then gently ask yourself:

“Does this feel like clarity… or control?”

Pay attention to how your body responds.

Clarity usually feels grounded, open, and peaceful even when there are temporary obstacles.

Control often feels tight, urgent, fearful, and exhausting.

You don’t have to force life to support you.

Sometimes, the most aligned thing we can do is become quiet enough to notice the difference.



With you,

Lynn