Day 263: They Can Feel When It’s You
You know when you walk into a house and it feels almost clinical, all the rooms are there, everything's in its place, and yet it doesn't feel like it was built as a home. Have you ever felt that before?
And then you walk into another house and you immediately feel your shoulders drop. You take a bigger breath. You feel comfortable. You feel at home.
I started helping people flip houses when I was in my early 20s, still living in Wisconsin. At that point it was just free advice from their Realtor because I didn't have the money myself to buy a house and flip it.
I had just bought my first house, but I had moved several times growing up and had been to plenty of open houses. And even as a kid, I was always thinking what I would have done differently.
All my clients would come back and tell me how much more money they made on the house I helped them with than they ever had before.
The reason was because I wasn't just going through the motions. I wasn't just looking at the steps that needed to be done and doing them.
I was putting my whole heart and soul into that house.
I would visualize how someone would be living in it and I would arrange things in a way to make that as easy and as much in flow as I possibly could. I just did that intuitively back then. I didn't have words for any of those things at the time.
And down through the decades every time I thought that was what I was going to end up doing this for a living, life had other plans for me.
Like when I flew up from Mexico to buy the house in Scottsdale, that's what I planned on doing. After the cancer we ended up moving there and my husband liked it so we didn't sell. I was always on the lookout in our area for other houses that I could remodel though.
When I would go to an open house and see what people were doing for remodels at that moment in time, I could tell immediately when a house had been done by a man without any woman's input. The guys approached it just from a construction standpoint, what they were changing.
When a woman was part of the process, I could often feel that the house had been redone for the way it would actually be lived in. I know that's a generalization, and I'm sure there are men who do that beautifully too. But this was my experience. I saw it over and over again, and I could feel it as soon as I walked into the house.
There is a difference between doing things right and putting all of yourself into it.
Doing it right may check all the boxes. Putting yourself into it gives it a heartbeat.
It can be felt, it can be seen, and it's the 'it' factor that makes a difference in how people respond to it. And how much they'll pay for it.
It doesn't matter if it's a product, a service, or how you do things in your life in general. It's apparent when someone is just doing what needs to be done, going through the motions, or when they are putting all of themselves into everything they do.
When you're looking at what you want to create in your life, it's important that you're all in. Body, mind, and soul. 100%. Because it shows, maybe not outwardly, but possibly. Definitely, everyone will feel it with their Spidey sense, or their intuition.
When you know, you know.
So much of our reality can't be explained with logic. Some is hard to put into words.
That's why I keep talking about our emotional scale and how we feel our way through life.
All our desires are about how we want to feel.
That house around the corner that you've had your eye on for years? It's not so much about the details you tell everyone about. It's more about how you imagine it will feel to live there. Something will be different, and it's not the 3 car garage. It's something you don't feel now that it represents for you. That's what you want.
And the sooner you get clear on what that feeling is and what it represents, the sooner you will be vibrating more clearly at that frequency and something like that or better will be on its way to you.
Keep dreaming, keep visualizing, keep journaling about what you want your life to be. I'm talking about your real life, not a fantasy. And just remember to feel it. Breathe it into every cell of your body.
And then it will pour out of you. Everyone will feel it, even if they can't name it.
Just like I could feel it in those houses when the person who did the work was all in and thinking of the buyer.
Just like how when I remodeled my house in Scottsdale, it looked modest on the outside, ordinary. And yet, almost every single person that ever walked inside that front door would stop in their tracks before stepping into the living room and just take it all in. Then they would say, "I wasn't expecting this. This is you. It just feels so calm, and welcoming." And that was before they even saw the best parts.
That's how you want to feel about your life and how you want others to feel about you.
We all want to be seen and acknowledged. To do that we have to live authentically, fully.
I was proud of the work I did in that house. When I bought it, it was a project. I wasn't buying what I wanted to live in. So when we decided to stay, I had to reinvent it as best I could to be my sanctuary. And that I did.
It's the same thing when you watch a cooking show and the judges tell a chef that their dish is them on a plate, that they would recognize it even if they didn't know ahead of time who made it.
That's authenticity pouring out of you into what you do, what you create and how you live.
That's what we're creating now, at this stage.
A life that feels like us.
A life people can feel when they get close to it.
A life where our energy, values, desires, and soul are not hidden behind what we thought we were supposed to build.
When you're all in, people can feel it.
More importantly, you can feel it.
And that is the clearest sign that what you're creating is truly yours.
Today's Gentle Practice
Think about one area of your life that feels technically fine, but doesn't fully feel like you.
Ask yourself:
What would change if I put more of my real self into this?
Don't think only about how it looks.
Think about how it feels.
The flow.
The warmth.
The ease.
The energy.
The sense that your life is not just well-constructed, but deeply lived in.
Let yourself notice where authenticity wants to come through.
With you,
Lynn
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