Day 283: Are You Living From Your Own Script?
You could appear to have a perfectly fine life while completely ignoring your instincts.
You look fine, live in a nice house, and everything is fine with your family and your work.
But there's a part of you that's beginning to wonder if you're playing a part in a script written by someone else.
The bigger question is, while it looks fine on the outside, how does it make you feel?
Are you passionate about the things in your life? Does it fulfill you and feed your soul?
Or are you just going through the motions these days? Hoping that when the next milestone happens, everything will magically be different.
If you're feeling this way, you're certainly not alone.
Even though I've consciously created my life since I've been an adult, that doesn't mean I haven't at times abandoned myself and let what other people told me I should want or be grateful for cloud my desires and derail my sovereignty.
Each time I got sucked into it so slowly that I didn't recognize what had happened until I was in it deep.
And it was that feeling of not being able to breathe that let me know I didn't choose this for myself. I let someone else persuade me it was the right choice.
And sometimes it's that voice in your head, the one whose job it is to keep you safe and keep things as they are, that does the persuading.
But each time I woke up to that situation, I found a way out.
What if you could sit down with a notebook or journal and script the life you can really see yourself living for the rest of your life?
Do you already have ideas of what you would want that to look like?
From 2001 to 2011, the women experts and authors I worked with had a lot in common with the women who came to me wanting to learn how to become a recognized expert, and also the even larger number of women who wanted my help in discovering what their passion was.
Many of these women quietly wanted to know if it was normal to feel like you weren't living the life you were meant to have. On some level, they felt that they ended up with pieces of their lives that they hadn't consciously chosen.
And when they took the personal inventory that my clients went through, they didn't really have what they felt were good reasons, beyond the surface level, for simple questions like:
Why do you live where you live?
Why do you do the work that you do?
Why are you in the relationships that you're in?
Why do you have the lifestyle you have?
Why do you manage finances the way you do?
When they looked at the core tenets of their lives, they had more questions than answers.
Two of the main tools we used to get those answers were creating their personal manifesto and going through the 40-day cycle of Change One Thing, Change Your Life.
And one of the things I had them start right away was to begin to write their own script.
It didn't matter how many edits and rewrites they chose to do along the way. The important thing was to start. To start thinking in a way that allowed you to consciously create the life you want to live.
Writing your script allows you the freedom to bring all your dreams into this world by feeling and visualizing what it would look like in day-to-day life. Give it as much detail as possible so you can feel and see it as you write it.
You can start with the broad strokes of the big picture, or you can start with a day in the life and then work your way from that to what it would take for that to happen.
In hypnotherapy sessions, I do a lot of work like that, working with the timeline of life to clearly see what needs to happen at certain points to make the end result a reality.
Because once you can see life clearly, even in small pieces, something begins to shift.
It allows you to stop waiting for someone else to hand you permission and stop treating your desires like vague wishes floating somewhere outside your real life. You begin bringing them into form.
You begin asking different questions.
What do I want this to feel like?
What would my mornings look like?
What kind of work would still feel alive to me?
What relationships would feel mutual and true?
What would I stop doing if I trusted myself more?
What would I finally allow myself to want?
This is not fantasy. Fantasy is escaping your life. Scripting is listening to your soul and giving it language.
It's how you begin to see where your current life does not match who you are growing into. And it's how you begin writing yourself back into the lead role.
You may not know every step yet, and you don't need to.
Start with the truth, the feeling, one scene from a life that actually feels like yours.
Then let that scene show you what wants to be written next.
Today's Gentle Practice
Take out a notebook or open a blank page.
Ask yourself:
If I were writing one scene from a life that actually feels like mine, what would I see?
Don't try to write your whole future. Just one scene.
Where are you?
What are you doing?
How does your body feel?
Who is there?
What is no longer pulling on you?
Let the scene be honest, even if it surprises you.
Sometimes the soul speaks more clearly when we give it a page.
With you,
Lynn
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