Day 298: Give Grace, Protect Your Peace
Two things came up for me this morning.
Sometimes we're working as hard as we can and people still find fault.
It could be that they are having a hard time too and need to blame someone to deflect from the mistakes they've made or not acknowledge the things they've let slide.
Possibly, they don't want to admit that they too are working as hard as they can and can't keep up.
It's also possible that some people make themselves feel better by being mean to someone else.
I always assume it's the first situation, until it's proven it isn't.
Many of us take on so much that we are often at the breaking point. and we don't know what, if anything, we can let go of.
And then I remembered these two quotes for A Course in Miracles.
"There are many answers you have already received but have not yet heard. I assure you that they are waiting for you."
Which to me says, slow down and listen. Pay closer attention. Maybe the answer is already there, but we are running so fast to keep everything going that we can't see it.
And this one.
"Every loving thought is true. Everything else is an appeal for healing and help, regardless of the form it takes."
This one is about giving grace to ourselves and others.
Everyone is carrying a lot these days. And things get raised to a boiling point where people lash out at whoever is the next person they have contact with, or the person they feel they can safely treat poorly without losing them. Which sadly is usually their partner or a close friend.
Keeping these two quotes in mind can serve as a reminder to take a breath and not judge ourselves or others.
There are also a lot of things coming into play in our outside world that can feel overwhelming or scary right now.
And that can make us feel like we don't have control over our lives. All of the things going on can feel like they are thrust upon us without us having a say.
That can make us feel helpless, overwhelmed, sad, even angry.
But we need to remember that we always have control over our emotions and the vibrational frequency we send out is what we get more of back into our lives.
We get to choose what we focus our attention on. We can shift our thoughts and beliefs to ones that are most empowering for us and make us feel good.
Because our lives are first and foremost about feeling good, having a life filled with love and joy and only we can make that possible by putting our focus there.
Have you ever noticed that some people are always happy, no matter what the world is showing them?
They focus on the good, and they don't try to micromanage things that ultimately are out of their control.
There are many things in the world we can influence, but not completely control, and we need to accept that or it will only lead to hurt and unhappiness.
One of the things we can't control is other people's actions or feelings.
But we can choose how we respond to them and how much of their energy we're willing to carry into our own lives.
And when we're the ones feeling overwhelmed, we can give ourselves that same grace. Slow down long enough to hear the answers that may already be there, and remember that someone else's behavior may be coming from a place of struggle we know nothing about.
We don't have to take on everyone else's emotions or make their problems ours to solve.
We can be compassionate, protect our peace, and keep our attention on the life we want to create.
Today's Gentle Practice
Think about a situation where someone else's behavior has been affecting your peace.
Ask yourself:
Am I allowing someone else's emotions or behavior to determine how I feel?
Notice what happens inside you when you think about the situation.
Can you give that person a little grace for whatever they may be going through, while also giving yourself permission to protect your own peace?
You don't have to understand or resolve everything.
Sometimes the most loving thing you can do is stop carrying what isn't yours.
With you,
Lynn
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