Day 301: What Your Life Is Telling You
This morning I was thinking about what makes some people appear to have an easy time bringing what they want into their lives while others either struggle or instead just keep getting more of what they already have and don't want.
What just popped into my head was the old saying, "If it weren't for bad luck, I'd have no luck at all."
That is the type of inner dialogue people who just can't quite get out of their own way when it comes to getting what they say they want have going on in their minds.
Because the truth is, the shift that needs to take place to change the outside takes place inside us.
That may sound harsh, but at this point in our time together, I don't think I have to soften things for you.
This is the time when we're thinking about how this year is going to end. Is it going to be a good year or what we would label a bad year?
Did we meet and exceed our expectations or fall back into our old patterns despite having hopes of leveling up in some way?
There are a couple of factors to consider if we say we want something on day 1 and then on day 301 we check in with ourselves and realize we are creating something very different or nothing at all has moved in either direction.
One is that what we said we wanted, we really, deep in our soul, didn't want. It was something we thought we should want so we acted like the desire was there, took the first step, maybe the second and then the effort toward it just faded away.
That's ok, because it really wasn't our desire in the first place.
That requires some soul-searching and looking at why we would have pursued that thing at all when we didn't truly want it.
Often what is behind this is someone else in your life influencing what you decide you want.
Peer pressure, family, friends, partner, social media, even the church or society in general.
Dig deep and look for the source because it really will tell you a lot that will be useful moving forward.
Back in the day, I used to do an exercise with clients where, after they had written out their goals or their desires for our time together, I'd have them go through their checkbook and credit card statements to see if that was really what they were spending their time and money on, or if their life showed they truly desired something completely different.
Because where we spend our time and money tells the real story. It shows what's actually getting our resources and attention, even when that doesn't match what we say matters most to us.
Then comes unraveling the story we tell about why. And that is very telling. Mismatched priorities, old thought patterns, outdated limiting beliefs that no longer serve who you are today.
Those old patterns can undermine what we say we want when we leave them running in the background. We may be talking about everything we're looking forward to while privately spending most of our energy preparing for disappointment.
It's like saying you believe it's going to be a sunny day and then grabbing an umbrella on the way out.
Because if you really believed it was going to be sunny, the idea of grabbing the umbrella would never enter your head.
The other thing that gets in our way is, as The Teachings of Abraham say, every subject is actually two subjects: something that you desire and the absence of something that you desire.
Those are very different vibrational frequencies that are being put out into the Universe.
You may think you're focusing on what you desire, but deep inside you is a place that is more focused on the lack of what you want. The fact that you don't already have it. The sadness that you may never have it or the anger about other people who have it instead of you.
Then it becomes a battle of which is more powerful inside of you. Where is your focus and internal conversation that creates your frequency spending most of its time?
We tell ourselves stories to make us feel better about not getting what we want. Sometimes those stories have been told so many times that they become beliefs we don't even see anymore. They're just part of the background. But they are powerful, and to change the results we are seeing, they need to be cleared out.
I'm watching this play out in someone's life right now, and it's a reminder of how difficult it can be to question something we've believed about ourselves for decades.
When an old story has become part of our identity, we can become very skilled at finding reasons to protect it.
We may dismiss information that challenges it, explain away things that other people can see, or keep repeating a version of events that allows us to stay comfortable with what we already believe.
And sometimes admitting the truth would require us to change something we're not yet willing to change.
It's difficult to watch when we care about someone, but we can't do that inner work for another person. They have to reach the point where they're willing to look at the story themselves.
And that applies to us too.
Old baggage needs to be let go before we can freely walk into a better life for ourselves.
But it is possible to do it, even if it's something that's had a stranglehold on your life for a long time.
And until we can do that, we will have mixed results when it comes to our ability to bring what we truly desire into our lives.
We can carry these old stories for decades without recognizing how much they're influencing our lives.
And sometimes it takes a very honest look at what we're doing, what we're believing, and what we're afraid to acknowledge before we can begin to change them.
That's something worth looking at as we move into these last 64 days of the year.
If the life you're creating doesn't match what you've been saying you want, look at what your everyday choices are showing you.
Listen to the conversations going on in your mind, especially the ones you've been having for so long that you've stopped questioning them.
You may discover that what you want has changed. Or you may find an old belief that's still making decisions for you.
Either discovery gives you something valuable to work with.
And once you can see what's happening, you have the opportunity to choose differently.
Today's Gentle Practice
Think about one desire you had at the beginning of the year that hasn't moved forward the way you expected.
Ask yourself:
Do I still truly want this, and are my choices supporting it?
Look at where your time, attention, and energy have been going.
Notice whether an old belief or an expectation you've inherited has been influencing those choices.
You don't have to judge yourself for what you discover.
Use that awareness to make one conscious decision about what you want moving forward.
With you,
Lynn
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