Day 91: The Hidden Damage of Beliefs You Never Questioned

Did you know that you’re 100% capable of changing any belief you hold that no longer serves you?

When you can acknowledge that and hold space for it within yourself, you can shift anything you choose.

Take that in for a minute.

You have been filled with other people’s beliefs since before you could even talk.

You were shaped by other people’s perceptions of the world as the model you built yourself and your life on.

But in all the years of your life, have you ever really sat down and looked at what your beliefs are and what serves you now and what doesn’t?

You may be surprised to realize that you took on beliefs based on your young mind misinterpreting what happened, and you’ve held on to it your whole life without ever questioning it.

Of course it felt true.

You remember it.

But do you?

In a few weeks I’m turning 70 and my dad is in his 90s.

Over the last decade, I’ve asked him about things I was sure I remembered.

The majority of them didn’t happen the way I thought.

Some didn’t happen at all.

A child’s mind either fills in gaps or tries to make sense of something it doesn’t yet have the capacity to fully understand.

And even as adults, we give meaning to things based on past experiences or the opinion of another person.

But what if the past experiences you’re using to give meaning and context to your life now are based on faulty input?

That would mean you are still creating beliefs and habits based on something that isn’t fully true.

And then you live your life from that place.

It’s no wonder that when something happens that turns your world upside down, you start to question things.

You feel lost.

You’re not sure what was real and what was a story you believed.

Then the questioning of yourself starts:

Am I too trusting?
Am I not as smart as I thought?
What is wrong with my perception?
Why didn’t I see this coming?
How can I ever trust myself to make decisions now?
What if none of it was ever real?
Was I just not paying attention?

Sometimes it’s important to acknowledge self-doubt.

Not to let it lead.

But to recognize that it’s there.

Self-doubt doesn’t mean something is wrong with you.

It often means you’re starting to see things more clearly than you did before.

You’re no longer moving through life on autopilot.

You’re questioning.

Not from weakness.

But from awareness.

And that’s a very different place to be.

The good news is that all of this creates an opening.

An opening to ask better questions.

To gather clearer, more reliable information to move forward.

Not by going back and reliving your past.

But through gentle noticing as things come up.

And a willingness to look just a little deeper.

To see if this belief or habit is something you want to keep… or let go.

That’s how you begin to reclaim your power.

I still do this myself.

It’s one reason I go through a cycle of my program, Change One Thing, Change Your Life, whenever it feels like time to get clarity.

I’m on lesson 36 of the 40 days right now, and this cycle has already brought clarity to some major personal decisions, along with ways to simplify parts of my business and where I want to place my focus.

We need this kind of recalibration from time to time.

Just to clear things out.

To see more clearly again.

It’s especially important when you’re standing at what I call the Truth Threshold.

The version of you that existed before everything changed is no longer who you are.

And the version of you that is emerging is still unfolding.

So this is not a time to hold tightly to old ways of thinking.

It’s a time to be open.

To let go of what no longer fits.

You don’t need to fully understand everything that happened.

You don’t need to assign blame.

You can leave it all on the other side.

And step forward without carrying that weight.

Today’s affirmation from Louise Hay is:

I speak up for myself. I claim my power now.

That feels good to say, doesn’t it?

And the more you say it, the more it begins to feel true.

Today’s Gentle Practice

Take a quiet moment today.

Notice a belief or thought that feels familiar.

Something you’ve accepted as true for a long time.

Gently ask yourself:

“Is this actually true for me now?”

Don’t force an answer.

Just create space.

Place one hand on your heart.

Take a slow breath in, and a slow breath out.

And allow yourself to consider the possibility that you can choose again.

If this resonates, I’d love to hear what belief you’re starting to question or release.

With you,
Lynn